{"id":16907,"date":"2022-06-01T12:15:03","date_gmt":"2022-06-01T10:15:03","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.luxor.cz\/blog\/?p=16907"},"modified":"2022-06-01T12:15:04","modified_gmt":"2022-06-01T10:15:04","slug":"bill-eddy-kdo-je-lidr-a-kdo-sarlatan","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.luxor.cz\/blog\/ukazky\/bill-eddy-kdo-je-lidr-a-kdo-sarlatan\/","title":{"rendered":"Bill Eddy \u2013 Kdo je l\u00eddr a kdo \u0161arlat\u00e1n?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Autor knihy Pro\u010d vol\u00edme psychopaty<\/a> vysv\u011btluje, jak vysoce konfliktn\u00ed osobnosti z\u00edsk\u00e1vaj\u00ed moc po cel\u00e9m sv\u011bt\u011b, ukazuje jejich typick\u00e9 vlastnosti, \u010derp\u00e1 z p\u0159\u00edklad\u016f od Hitlera po Putina a rad\u00ed, co m\u016f\u017eeme ud\u011blat, aby se tito lid\u00e9 nedostali do \u00fa\u0159adu.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Jak oslovit voli\u010de<\/h1>\n

Vysoce konfliktn\u00ed politici v\u011bd\u00ed, \u017ee to v\u0161echno je o jejich vztahu s voli\u010di, ne o politice. T\u00e9m\u011b\u0159 v\u0161echnu svou energii vkl\u00e1daj\u00ed do toho, aby si upevnili p\u0159\u00edze\u0148 sv\u00fdch voli\u010d\u016f a rozd\u011blili opozici. Sv\u00fdm stoupenc\u016fm v\u011bnuj\u00ed hodn\u011b pozornosti a promlouvaj\u00ed k nim ve\u0159ejn\u011b skoro ka\u017edodenn\u011b. Jejich emocion\u00e1ln\u00ed sd\u011blen\u00ed zahrnuje v\u017edy t\u011bchto p\u011bt \u010d\u00e1st\u00ed:<\/p>\n

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  • Jste pro m\u011b d\u016fle\u017eit\u00ed. Jsem k v\u00e1m empatick\u00fd, pozorn\u00fd a respektuji v\u00e1s.<\/li>\n
  • P\u0159esn\u011b rozum\u00edm va\u0161im pot\u0159eb\u00e1m a pomohu v\u00e1m je naplnit.<\/li>\n
  • Jsme ob\u011bti na\u0161ich zl\u00fdch nep\u0159\u00e1tel, kte\u0159\u00ed se m\u011b i v\u00e1s sna\u017e\u00ed zneu\u017e\u00edt pro sv\u016fj prosp\u011bch.<\/li>\n
  • Budu s na\u0161imi zl\u00fdmi nep\u0159\u00e1teli bojovat, ale pot\u0159ebuji, abyste mi v tom pomohli.<\/li>\n
  • Jsem velk\u00fd, siln\u00fd a pln\u00fd energie, tak\u017ee se m\u011bjte v\u0161ichni na pozoru!<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

    Pro narcisty i sociopaty je to samoz\u0159ejm\u011b jen velk\u00fd \u0161vindl. Ve skute\u010dnosti se o sv\u00e9 voli\u010de nezaj\u00edmaj\u00ed (p\u0159esto\u017ee se jim l\u00edb\u00ed pozornost, kterou od nich dost\u00e1vaj\u00ed) a jejich pot\u0159eb\u00e1m nerozum\u011bj\u00ed. Prost\u0159ednictv\u00edm emocion\u00e1ln\u011b podbarven\u00e9ho opakov\u00e1n\u00ed zazn\u00edvaj\u00edc\u00edho osamocen\u011b jsou schopni p\u0159im\u011bt sv\u00e9 voli\u010de, aby si s nimi vytvo\u0159ili pouto a \u010dasto se do nich i \u00fapln\u011b zbl\u00e1znili. Abychom \u00fa\u010dinn\u011b p\u0159ekazili HCP (vysoce konfliktn\u00ed osobnost) jejich zvolen\u00ed, mus\u00edme p\u0159em\u00fd\u0161let z hlediska vztah\u016f \u2013 podobn\u011b jako ve v\u00fd\u0161e popsan\u00e9m emocion\u00e1ln\u00edm sd\u011blen\u00ed o p\u011bti \u010d\u00e1stech \u2013, ale mus\u00edme k tomu p\u0159istupovat poctiv\u011bji. Jak jsme u\u017e prob\u00edrali, r\u00e1doby kr\u00e1lov\u00e9 buduj\u00ed vztahy na z\u00e1klad\u011b sv\u00fdch fantazi\u00ed spojen\u00fdch s emocion\u00e1ln\u00edm opakov\u00e1n\u00edm. My bychom sv\u00e9 vztahy m\u011bli naopak stav\u011bt na skute\u010dnosti a pozitivn\u00edm emocion\u00e1ln\u00edm opakov\u00e1n\u00ed.<\/p>\n

    Pokud jste kandid\u00e1t, pracovn\u00edk kampan\u011b, dobrovoln\u00edk nebo voli\u010d, kter\u00fd chce p\u016fsobit na ostatn\u00ed voli\u010de, je nezbytn\u00e9 osvojit si n\u00ed\u017ee uveden\u00e9 vztahov\u00e9 dovednosti:<\/p>\n

    D\u00e1vejte za v\u0161ech okolnost\u00ed najevo svou empatii, pozornost a respekt v\u016f\u010di v\u0161em <\/strong>(i nevoli\u010d\u016fm).<\/strong> Jin\u00fdmi slovy, zam\u011b\u0159te se na EAR v\u00fdrokyTM<\/sup> (akronym z angl. orig. Empathy, Attention, Respect). (Sv\u00e9 metody opat\u0159uji obchodn\u00ed zna\u010dkou, aby je druz\u00ed nemohli n\u00e1rokovat \u010di pozm\u011b\u0148ovat, ale m\u016f\u017eete je samoz\u0159ejm\u011b pou\u017e\u00edvat.) EAR v\u00fdroky zahrnuj\u00ed jedno, dv\u011b nebo v\u0161echna t\u0159i z t\u011bchto emocion\u00e1ln\u00edch poselstv\u00ed:<\/p>\n

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    • C\u00edt\u00edm s v\u00e1mi (neboli z\u00e1le\u017e\u00ed mi na v\u00e1s a va\u0161ich starostech).<\/li>\n
    • P\u0159ijdu za v\u00e1mi a budu v\u00e1m v\u011bnovat svou pozornost.<\/li>\n
    • Respektuji v\u00e1s.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

      Bu\u010fte p\u0159ipraveni mluvit s \u00factou k jak\u00e9mukoli publiku \u2013 a v\u017edy mluvte s \u00factou o ka\u017ed\u00e9m, dokonce i o HCP (kter\u00fd svou energii \u010derp\u00e1 z toho, \u017ee se mu nedost\u00e1v\u00e1 \u00facty a s\u00e1m sob\u011b beztak nerozum\u00ed).<\/p>\n

      Poznejte sv\u00e9 publikum.<\/strong> Ano, je dobr\u00e9 um\u011bt naslouchat, ale voli\u010di opravdu cht\u011bj\u00ed n\u011bkoho, kdo bez dal\u0161\u00edho vysv\u011btlov\u00e1n\u00ed rozum\u00ed jejich pot\u0159eb\u00e1m a m\u00e1 je tak\u00e9 za prioritu. Vytvo\u0159te pov\u011bdom\u00ed o \u201emy\u201c u\u017e od za\u010d\u00e1tku. Od za\u010d\u00e1tku hovo\u0159te o sob\u011b a sv\u00e9m publiku jako o \u201en\u00e1s\u201c. Nep\u0159istupujte k nim jako k cizinc\u016fm, kter\u00fdm se sna\u017e\u00edte porozum\u011bt jako n\u011bkdo, kdo jim je na m\u00edle vzd\u00e1len\u00fd. P\u0159istupujte k nim jako k sob\u011b rovn\u00fdm, kter\u00fdm z velk\u00e9 \u010d\u00e1sti rozum\u00edte, ale chcete se od nich dozv\u011bd\u011bt je\u0161t\u011b v\u00edce.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

      Autor knihy Pro\u010d vol\u00edme psychopaty vysv\u011btluje, jak vysoce konfliktn\u00ed osobnosti z\u00edsk\u00e1vaj\u00ed moc po cel\u00e9m sv\u011bt\u011b, ukazuje jejich typick\u00e9 vlastnosti, \u010derp\u00e1 z p\u0159\u00edklad\u016f od Hitlera po Putina a rad\u00ed, co m\u016f\u017eeme […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":8,"featured_media":16908,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"_EventAllDay":false,"_EventTimezone":"","_EventStartDate":"","_EventEndDate":"","_EventStartDateUTC":"","_EventEndDateUTC":"","_EventShowMap":false,"_EventShowMapLink":false,"_EventURL":"","_EventCost":"","_EventCostDescription":"","_EventCurrencySymbol":"","_EventCurrencyCode":"","_EventCurrencyPosition":"","_EventDateTimeSeparator":"","_EventTimeRangeSeparator":"","_EventOrganizerID":[],"_EventVenueID":[],"_OrganizerEmail":"","_OrganizerPhone":"","_OrganizerWebsite":"","_VenueAddress":"","_VenueCity":"","_VenueCountry":"","_VenueProvince":"","_VenueState":"","_VenueZip":"","_VenuePhone":"","_VenueURL":"","_VenueStateProvince":"","_VenueLat":"","_VenueLng":"","_VenueShowMap":false,"_VenueShowMapLink":false,"twitterCardType":"","cardImageID":0,"cardImage":"","cardTitle":"","cardDesc":"","cardImageAlt":"","cardPlayer":"","cardPlayerWidth":0,"cardPlayerHeight":0,"cardPlayerStream":"","cardPlayerCodec":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[21019],"tags":[21647,20814,20884],"class_list":["post-16907","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-ukazky","tag-naucna-literatura","tag-psychologie","tag-ukazka"],"acf":{"related_products":null},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.luxor.cz\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16907","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.luxor.cz\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.luxor.cz\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.luxor.cz\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/8"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.luxor.cz\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=16907"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.luxor.cz\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16907\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.luxor.cz\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/16908"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.luxor.cz\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=16907"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.luxor.cz\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=16907"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.luxor.cz\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=16907"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}