{"id":16734,"date":"2022-05-02T09:14:16","date_gmt":"2022-05-02T07:14:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.luxor.cz\/blog\/?p=16734"},"modified":"2022-05-02T09:14:18","modified_gmt":"2022-05-02T07:14:18","slug":"irvin-d-yalom-marilyn-yalomova-o-smrti-a-zivote","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.luxor.cz\/blog\/ukazky\/irvin-d-yalom-marilyn-yalomova-o-smrti-a-zivote\/","title":{"rendered":"Irvin D. Yalom, Marilyn Yalomov\u00e1 \u2013 O smrti a \u017eivot\u011b"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong>Velmi osobn\u00ed zpov\u011bdi sv\u011btozn\u00e1m\u00e9ho psychiatra a autora Irvina Yaloma a jeho \u017eeny Marilyn, kter\u00e1 um\u00edr\u00e1 na rakovinu. Jak\u00e9 to je \u010delit vlastn\u00ed smrtelnosti? Jak zvl\u00e1dat odchod bl\u00edzk\u00e9ho \u010dlov\u011bka?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Knihu O smrti a \u017eivot\u011b u n\u00e1s po\u0159\u00edd\u00edte <a href=\"https:\/\/www.luxor.cz\/product\/o-smrti-a-zivote-zbo000447666\">ZDE<\/a>.&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><em>Tak\u017ee takov\u00e1 je moje sou\u010dasn\u00e1 situace: Marilyn, m\u00e1 milovan\u00e1 man\u017eelka, nejd\u016fle\u017eit\u011bj\u0161\u00ed osoba na sv\u011bt\u011b od m\u00fdch patn\u00e1cti let, trp\u00ed v\u00e1\u017enou nemoc\u00ed, a m\u016fj vlastn\u00ed \u017eivot mi p\u0159ipad\u00e1 nebezpe\u010dn\u011b k\u0159ehk\u00fd.<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>A p\u0159esto jsem kupodivu klidn\u00fd, t\u00e9m\u011b\u0159 vyrovnan\u00fd. Jak to, \u017ee se neboj\u00edm? Pokl\u00e1d\u00e1m si tu divnou ot\u00e1zku po\u0159\u00e1d dokola. V\u011bt\u0161inu sv\u00e9ho \u017eivota jsem byl fyzicky zdrav\u00fd, a p\u0159esto jsem se v\u017edy do ur\u010dit\u00e9 m\u00edry pot\u00fdkal s \u00fazkost\u00ed ze smrti. Mysl\u00edm, \u017ee hnac\u00edm motorem m\u00e9ho v\u00fdzkumu, psan\u00ed o \u00fazkosti ze smrti a neust\u00e1l\u00fdch snah p\u0159in\u00e9st \u00falevu pacient\u016fm \u010del\u00edc\u00edm smrti byl m\u016fj vlastn\u00ed osobn\u00ed strach. Ale kam se te\u010f ten strach pod\u011bl? Odkud vyv\u011br\u00e1 m\u016fj klid, kdy\u017e smrt se kvapem bl\u00ed\u017e\u00ed? Jak dny m\u00edjej\u00ed, na\u0161e tr\u00e1pen\u00ed pomalu ustupuje do pozad\u00ed. S Marilyn tr\u00e1v\u00edme dopoledne usazen\u00ed vedle sebe vzadu na zahrad\u011b. Obdivujeme okoln\u00ed stromy, dr\u017e\u00edme se za ruce a vzpom\u00edn\u00e1me na spole\u010dn\u00fd \u017eivot. P\u0159ipom\u00edn\u00e1me si spoustu na\u0161ich cest. Dva roky na Havaji, kde jsem slou\u017eil v arm\u00e1d\u011b a bydleli jsme tam na n\u00e1dhern\u00e9 pl\u00e1\u017ei Kailua, potom rok akademick\u00e9ho volna v Lond\u00fdn\u011b, dal\u0161\u00ed p\u016flrok \u017eivota pobl\u00ed\u017e Oxfordu, n\u011bkolik m\u011bs\u00edc\u016f v Pa\u0159\u00ed\u017ei, dal\u0161\u00ed dlouh\u00e9 pobyty na Seychel\u00e1ch, Bali, ve Francii, Rakousku a It\u00e1lii. Kdy\u017e se vyno\u0159\u00edme z t\u011bch n\u00e1dhern\u00fdch vzpom\u00ednek, Marilyn mi stiskne ruku: \u201eIrve, nic bych nem\u011bnila.\u201c<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>Z cel\u00e9ho srdce s n\u00ed souhlas\u00edm.<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>Oba m\u00e1me pocit, \u017ee jsme \u017eili naplno. Ze v\u0161ech my\u0161lenek, kter\u00e9 nab\u00edz\u00edm pacient\u016fm boj\u00edc\u00edm se smrti, nen\u00ed \u017e\u00e1dn\u00e1 mocn\u011bj\u0161\u00ed ne\u017e p\u0159edstava \u017eivota pro\u017eit\u00e9ho tak, \u017ee nen\u00ed \u010deho litovat. Marilyn a j\u00e1 ni\u010deho nelitujeme \u2013 \u017eili jsme naplno a odv\u00e1\u017en\u011b. Dbali jsme na to, abychom si nenechali uj\u00edt \u017e\u00e1dnou p\u0159\u00edle\u017eitost k n\u011b\u010demu nov\u00e9mu, a te\u010f n\u00e1m zb\u00fdv\u00e1 z nepro\u017eit\u00e9ho \u017eivota u\u017e jen kousek. Marilyn si chod\u00ed do domu zd\u0159\u00edmnout. Chemoterapie j\u00ed ods\u00e1v\u00e1 energii, tak\u017ee hodn\u011b p\u0159es den sp\u00ed. Op\u0159u se ve sv\u00e9m \u010daloun\u011bn\u00e9m leh\u00e1tku a p\u0159em\u00fd\u0161l\u00edm o mnoha pacientech, kte\u0159\u00ed ke mn\u011b chodili, proto\u017ee je p\u0159emohl strach ze smrti \u2013 a tak\u00e9 o mnoha filozofech, kte\u0159\u00ed hled\u011bli smrti p\u0159\u00edmo do tv\u00e1\u0159e. Seneca p\u0159ed dv\u011bma tis\u00edci lety \u0159ekl: \u201e\u010clov\u011bk nen\u00ed ochoten um\u00edrat, pokud pr\u00e1v\u011b za\u010dal \u017e\u00edt. Mus\u00edme sm\u011b\u0159ovat k tomu, abychom m\u011bli dost od\u017eito.\u201c Nietzsche, tv\u016frce nejmocn\u011bj\u0161\u00edch v\u011bt, \u0159ekl: \u201e\u017d\u00edt bezpe\u010dn\u011b je nebezpe\u010dn\u00e9.\u201c Na mysl mi p\u0159ich\u00e1z\u00ed dal\u0161\u00ed Nietzscheho v\u011bta: \u201eMnoz\u00ed zem\u0159ou p\u0159\u00edli\u0161 pozd\u011b, a n\u011bkte\u0159\u00ed zem\u0159ou p\u0159\u00edli\u0161 brzy. Zem\u0159ete v prav\u00fd \u010das!\u201c<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>\u201eZem\u0159ete v prav\u00fd \u010das.\u201c Je t\u011b\u017ek\u00e9 to vyhnat z hlavy. A pak se mi vybav\u00ed dal\u0161\u00ed nietzscheovsk\u00e1 v\u011bta: \u201eCo se stalo dokonal\u00fdm, v\u0161echno, co je zral\u00e9 \u2013 chce zem\u0159\u00edt. V\u0161echno, co je nezral\u00e9, chce \u017e\u00edt. V\u0161echno, co trp\u00ed, chce \u017e\u00edt, aby mohlo zr\u00e1t, radovat se a tou\u017eit \u2013 tou\u017eit po tom, co je d\u00e1l, v\u00fd\u0161, z\u00e1\u0159iv\u011bj\u0161\u00ed.\u201c<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>Ano, to mi tak\u00e9 n\u011bco \u0159\u00edk\u00e1. Zralost \u2013 to sed\u00ed. Zralost je p\u0159esn\u011b to, co Marilyn i j\u00e1 te\u010f pro\u017e\u00edv\u00e1me.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Velmi osobn\u00ed zpov\u011bdi sv\u011btozn\u00e1m\u00e9ho psychiatra a autora Irvina Yaloma a jeho \u017eeny Marilyn, kter\u00e1 um\u00edr\u00e1 na rakovinu. Jak\u00e9 to je \u010delit vlastn\u00ed smrtelnosti? Jak zvl\u00e1dat odchod bl\u00edzk\u00e9ho \u010dlov\u011bka? 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